KidCash should never be used to make children feel powerless and small. Try to communicate the rules and violations in a way that is supporting, even if you have to be stern.
Avoid being random. For example, don’t take away dollars or toys they've earned out of anger. They've spent a lot of time building up this cash, and their trust is very delicate. If you randomly take it away out of anger, they will not trust the system you are telling them to participate in.
Avoid decisions that may be made when you are emotional or reacting. Your motivation for tickets should always communicated with long term goals in mind and not short term gain of control. Remember, children are children, they will sometimes rebel, not listen, seem to be not bothered by tickets or whatever else you throw at them. It’s a natural part of growing up and learning how to communicate your boundaries. Consistency will translate your good intentions over time and will increase the trust your kids have in you and the structure you have built for them.
In any questionable situation, ask yourself how you would feel if somebody did it to you as an adult. What if your boss took back three months of pay for not doing what he told you to. What if he went to your house and just took your car and told you, well maybe now you'll learn to listen to him. It's easier to remember how they feel if you reframe it in terms of adults.
You want your children to follow the rules because they understand you want what’s best for them. You want to let them explore breaking the rules but understand that some actions have consequences. You want them to understand what’s expected so they can flourish. You want them to trust you and the system you are governing for your best chance of success.
This is a learning opportunity for parents as much as children and it’s meaningful to know that it’s okay if we don’t always do the right thing. The important thing is that we spend a little time to focus on our high level goals, identify the things that will help us succeed and try to do our best. We hope this helps steer you in a bright direction.
Sometimes a simple reframing of the problem can help you focus. Children are people too and react similarly when confronted. For a parent, it's often difficult to take “child” out of the equation or to distance yourself properly to see other outside of the box. We hope this writing exercise can help you visualize other angles and find the solution that brings you productive results. Help other parents and share your success stories below.
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Danielle D. says...As a teacher, philanthropist, wife, and mother of a 12 year old boy with Aspergers...I can honestly say that KidCash is truly a blessing! Growing up, my son struggled with fairness and motivation to accomplish daily tasks. He...read more
Rolf L. says...This is the most innovative, ingenious, and NECESSARY tool in our upbringing arsenal! KidCash teaches our son discipline, the importance of earning and saving, the value of work, penalties for not following the rules, and overall structure. AND IT'S FUN...read more
Christina K. says...My LO is 3 1/2 and at first I thought she may be too young for Kid Cash. I am happy I started using it anyway. It is working wonders for us. She looks forward to saving "cash" for items. She is learning the valu...read more
Tre H. says... The KidCash system has been amazing in our home. The children no longer "nag" for things...the change was basically overnight...read more
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Patrick H. says...In our home, we use many reward systems, especially since we have an autistic child. KidCash is so much more than a reward system, it is a parent education system. This ...read more
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Maria C. says...As an educator and a mom, I can’t begin to describe to you how important it is to teach children how to be financially responsible early on and to encourage them to make...read more
Ashley says...We’ve instantly seen an improvement in attitude. She’s also so excited about her cash, she even brought it to the restaurant and when she ordered lemonade, she “paid” the waitress. I’m hopeful...read more